Who should be stay-at-home nowadays, Dad or Mum?

(Cyril Lee)

"Man are breadwinners and women are homemakers," many elders always mention, "man should earn money from outside and women take care of the children and serve the husband well." In my opinion, this statement should have a discretion as every families have their own division of different responsibilities.

Working mum work a "second shift" housekeeping and taking care of the children after the first shift of paid work outside home. Although there is little evidence of this change, there is also a lot of talk and hope of this changing. With the busy lives, the mum starts to complain about the husband lack of participation in domestic work which they think the men are domestic marginalized.

Women have maternal instinct and they "protect" the home as their sphere of dominance. Besides, women were trained to do domestic work during their growths. Not like the women, men were not trained to do domestic work. Since this, in some working mum's eyes, the men are assumed as incompetent.

Men are unwilling to be underestimated by women so some of them both work and do domestic work or even become stay-at-home dad to prove that they can strut the home by even more or fully participate so nowadays, there are more and more stay-at-home dad.

More and more working mum and stay-at-home dad are accepted. The reasons of this phenomenon are very long stories. I think the main reason of this phenomenon is both genders can have education and start to become open-minded. With the daily lives with different genders and realization on the basis of what we experience, we start to accept the extraordinary masculinity and femininity, for example, tough girl and tender boy so thinly, different families accept the concepts of stay-at-home dad and working mum.