(Naomi Cheung)
People’s views of love are different between ancient periods and modern times. People in the past believe that love will never change until death, most of them have promises of being together for ever. Although some of their marriages are arranged by their parents, they are loyal to their couples. The mutual respect between husband and wife makes their marriages stable, so the problems of divorce are rare in the past.
However, people nowadays advocate free love and care a lot about instantaneous feelings rather than lifetime commitment. Also, their minds are less conservative nowadays, they easily fall in love with someone, even have sex with their lovers before get married. Some of them may get marry because of being pregnant. Their bases of love are not developed completely, so they do not fully understand each other. It easily result in the consequences of having an affair. There are some celebrities in Hong Kong who was exposed their bad news about having an affair, such as Roy Chow (周永恆) and Joe Nieh (倪震).
In my opinion, I think that having an affair is incomprehensible. I think that marriage is not just a paper, it is a promise which means the loyalty to their partners that will not abandon each other. Having an affair not only negatively affect the relationship between the couple, but also break the hearts of each other. Some families torn to pieces because the husband or wife have an affair, some of them may have children. Broken marriage will also affect the children’s life, none of them want their parents to divorce. Therefore, I think the most innocent one who suffer from the tragedy is the children.
(Cyril Lee)
"Man are breadwinners and women are homemakers," many elders always mention, "man should earn money from outside and women take care of the children and serve the husband well." In my opinion, this statement should have a discretion as every families have their own division of different responsibilities.
Working mum work a "second shift" housekeeping and taking care of the children after the first shift of paid work outside home. Although there is little evidence of this change, there is also a lot of talk and hope of this changing. With the busy lives, the mum starts to complain about the husband lack of participation in domestic work which they think the men are domestic marginalized.
Women have maternal instinct and they "protect" the home as their sphere of dominance. Besides, women were trained to do domestic work during their growths. Not like the women, men were not trained to do domestic work. Since this, in some working mum's eyes, the men are assumed as incompetent.
Men are unwilling to be underestimated by women so some of them both work and do domestic work or even become stay-at-home dad to prove that they can strut the home by even more or fully participate so nowadays, there are more and more stay-at-home dad.
More and more working mum and stay-at-home dad are accepted. The
reasons of this phenomenon are very long stories. I think the
main reason of this phenomenon is both genders can have education and start to become open-minded. With
the daily lives with different genders and realization on the basis of
what we experience, we start to accept the extraordinary masculinity and
femininity, for example, tough girl and tender boy so thinly, different
families accept the concepts of stay-at-home dad and working mum.
